RE: Girl in need of butt stuff

But... but... i can't imagine anyone else in my butt, but him.

People aren't toys. If he doesn't want to be in your butt, why do you want him there? 

<3

Kerri,
Do you love me?

Nope,
I only love myself.

Fell In Love With The Girl At The Rock Show

Kerri,
I always see this one girl at shows and she's really so beautiful. I want to talk to her but I don't think you're allowed to walk up and talk to strangers at shows? And being real I'm worried everyone would just make fun of me because punx is jerks. Is there a right way to do this?

Punk Love,
You can talk to whoever you want, nobody is better than you. If they won't talk to you it's because they're an ass. Punx isn't jerks, punx wishes they were jerks. You're more punk anyway if you don't care about them. Go talk to strangers, just don't be a creep about it. People enjoy when you talk to them.

Can women actually squirt?

Or nah?

Squirt,
Well, human bodies are pretty incredible (also disgusting), so it might be true. But also, these girls might just be pissing.

Sleeping Around

Kerri,
I recently had a pretty rough breakup and to help me get over it, my friends convinced me to get an okcupid. Its going really well, but I'm worried that it's going to well. Real quick, how many is to many?

Too Concerned,
I don't understand how this is a problem. Do whatever you want to do and be safe, I guess? 

Recent Love Interest

Kerri,
About a year ago I started hanging out with someone new. At the time it seemed like a good idea. It was very exciting and it was completely uncharted territory for me. By that I mean I was used to a very specific kind of girl and all of a sudden I'm hanging out with someone I have very little experience with. Like I said it's been about a year and since then I've given up every single weekend and lately most of my weeknights. She doesn't like it when I go out because that means she's not getting the attention she needs. Moving forward I see great potential In our relationship. She supports me mentally and financially, I feel more secure and proud than I have with a girl in a long time. But on that note I feel like I'm devoting all my time to her and I'm giving up other potential options for my life. I'm madly in love but I feel guilty and apprehensive about it. What do you think I should do?

Apprehensive, 
You probably feel like you're giving up potential options for your life because you are. Relationships only work when there's so much trust that you get to do whatever you want. It does feel awesome feeling like you're very secure in a relationship and proud of your partner, but they shouldn't make you feel guilty for going off and doing things on your own. Speaking from experience, being in a relationship like this felt great for me when it happened, but it felt a lot better once I found a relationship that offered me SPACE. If you want to try to do things on your own, you should. If your partner isn't okay with it, you should talk to them about it. You'll know when the situation becomes unreasonable and you'll know if you want to deal with it or not.

SPACE.

Kerri,
Recently my partner broke up with me very out of the blue without previously bringing up any concerns and problems. I do feel like it is okay for a person to end a relationship that they are unhappy with, even if it is one with me. I just feel very upset that it seemed so out of nowhere, and that no problems were ever brought up for us to work on together or separately until after the break up. The person acknowledge that they should have brought things up before when I asked why nothing was ever talked about before. Now this partner has discussed wanting to work on things and missing me,but also says they need space. I am trying my best to respect their need for space, but I do not know how anything will ever be worked out in the weird suspended state the relationship is in. I feel like they are calling all the shots in the situation, and that I am just left feeling very helpless and hopeless. I briefly brought up my feelings trying to be polite, and they got upset with me for feeling insecure. I don't understand how I am expected to not feel insecure when I have no idea what is going on, nothing is being discussed, and they only talk to me when they feel like it. When they said they needed space to work through their personal issues, I thought their would at least be a discussion about what that meant, and what was expected from the both of us. I am wondering how to proceed?

Space,
I don't think you're wrong in feeling the way you do. This is a situation I've been on both sides of, and neither side looks too good. It's hard to give somebody space when you care about them and only want to help them work out their problems, but unfortunately they don't always need your help. It was nice of your partner to acknowledge that they should have given you a reason for ending your relationship, but if they still aren't willing to talk about it with you, you need to decide if your relationship is something that's worth holding onto. You, as a person, also have wants and needs and this is a situation where you need to think about number one (you!). A good partner shouldn't make you feel guilty for feeling insecure, of course nobody is perfect, but if they're not willing to learn how to make you feel good, then it might not be worth your time. Everything goes two ways in a relationship. I would reach out to your partner and tell them what you need to make your relationship work in the long run, I would also tell them what you're willing to do for them (this might include giving them all the space they need if they promise to fill you in on the details later). If they can't compromise, it's a little out of your hands.

Hope it goes well.

How To Take Friendship To An Intimate Level

Kerri,
I'm very into an asexual nerd. We made out once for a week, but that was about a year ago. We talk every day and I make my intentions clear, which he deflects. I'd be fine if it never happened because I appreciate talking to him and his friendship more than I need a physical relationship with him. I still can't help but wonder if I'm not doing anything that could take this further. Advice? PS- he likes my butt. 

Well, he doesn't sound too asexual if he likes your butt ;) , that's definitely some sort of attraction, which is good news for you! This situation seems tricky because there seems to be flirting from both of you, which makes it strange that he ignores you when you tell him how you feel. Yes, there are probably a million things you could do differently to take the next step in your relationship, but if he isn't understanding all of the hints you're dropping, you really just need to straight up ask him if he feels the same way! Let him know that you're okay with never being anything more than just friends so he doesn't feel weird in case his answer is no. But, I don't think he'll be bothered by you asking because you seem to share a great friendship and history.

Good luck!