Kerri,
Recently my partner broke up with me very out of the blue without previously bringing up any concerns and problems. I do feel like it is okay for a person to end a relationship that they are unhappy with, even if it is one with me. I just feel very upset that it seemed so out of nowhere, and that no problems were ever brought up for us to work on together or separately until after the break up. The person acknowledge that they should have brought things up before when I asked why nothing was ever talked about before. Now this partner has discussed wanting to work on things and missing me,but also says they need space. I am trying my best to respect their need for space, but I do not know how anything will ever be worked out in the weird suspended state the relationship is in. I feel like they are calling all the shots in the situation, and that I am just left feeling very helpless and hopeless. I briefly brought up my feelings trying to be polite, and they got upset with me for feeling insecure. I don't understand how I am expected to not feel insecure when I have no idea what is going on, nothing is being discussed, and they only talk to me when they feel like it. When they said they needed space to work through their personal issues, I thought their would at least be a discussion about what that meant, and what was expected from the both of us. I am wondering how to proceed?
Space,
I don't think you're wrong in feeling the way you do. This is a situation I've been on both sides of, and neither side looks too good. It's hard to give somebody space when you care about them and only want to help them work out their problems, but unfortunately they don't always need your help. It was nice of your partner to acknowledge that they should have given you a reason for ending your relationship, but if they still aren't willing to talk about it with you, you need to decide if your relationship is something that's worth holding onto. You, as a person, also have wants and needs and this is a situation where you need to think about number one (you!). A good partner shouldn't make you feel guilty for feeling insecure, of course nobody is perfect, but if they're not willing to learn how to make you feel good, then it might not be worth your time. Everything goes two ways in a relationship. I would reach out to your partner and tell them what you need to make your relationship work in the long run, I would also tell them what you're willing to do for them (this might include giving them all the space they need if they promise to fill you in on the details later). If they can't compromise, it's a little out of your hands.
Hope it goes well.